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7 Tips on Coping with a Spouse on Active Military Duty

The Harris Law Firm

It can be difficult to be separated from your spouse in any scenario. However, it feels more difficult when your spouse is on active military duty. Between the constant worry over his or her safety and the frequent deployment and moves, anyone’s nerves can be frayed. If left unaddressed, this tension can cause problems in the marriage. Of the 1.4 million women and men in the armed forces, about 56.6% of them are married. Unfortunately, 4.5% of active duty marriages result in divorce. At The Harris Law Firm, we believe divorce should only be the final option. We understand the sacrifices military families make for their country. That is why we have compiled a few tips to help those who have a spouse on active military duty.

Get Out of the House

It can be easy to want to hole up in your home and avoid the rest of the world. Some spouses want to save special events for when their partner is with them. However, life does not wait for you. Make sure to go out and explore the city or do something fun. Go to the movies or for a hike. It can be as simple as going out to workout. Whatever it is, make sure to get out of the house and get some fresh air.

Adjust Your Perspective

It can be difficult to look on the bright side of things when your spouse places themselves in danger in their line of work. It can also be difficult to constantly move around states to countries. Rather than dwelling on the negative, take a moment to look at all the opportunities offered to you. You get the chance to explore new places, meet new friends, and try new experiences.

Turn Off the TV

Whether you check the news over the television, radio, internet, or paper, remember to take a step back. It can be easy to solely focus on the media and expect the worst, but that is unhealthy. Watching for bad news can only drain your energy and increase your worry.

Mentally Prepare for Deployment

Watching your spouse leave for active duty can be difficult. Mentally prepare yourself before they leave. Take pictures together in your favorite places, make plans for when they return, and schedule things you can do while they are gone. This will hopefully help ease the shock when they are gone because you will have plans.

Participate in the Community

Get involved! Whether you help at the local shelter or join a book club, it can be helpful being a part of the community. It will help ease the ache of loneliness.

Join a Support Group

Many husbands and wives have spouses in the armed forces. Join a support group where you can talk about your fears, frustration, sadness, and more. Make friends with other military spouses who can understand because they are going through similar experiences.

Pursue Personal Interests

With the time spent apart from your spouse, you can pick up new hobbies and pursue personal interests. Whether you have wanted to take up salsa or learn a new language, this can be a good time to do it! Rather than solely worrying about your spouse, spend some time reflecting on yourself.

At The Harris Law Firm, we believe that marriage is sacred. We hope you can preserve yours. If you and your spouse are going through difficult times, contact our Colorado family law attorneys today.


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